January 2016 - Volume 63
  Helping Children and Adolescents Succeed Socially!
The Social Skills Group Self confidence and how to help to develop it in your children.

New groups forming now.

Social Skills Groups are held at:
The Social Skills Place, Inc.
310 S. Happ Rd, Suite 201
Northfield, Illinois 60093

Date and times:

Elementary School
Thursday's 4:30PM-5:30PM

Middle School/Jr.High
Monday's 4:45PM-5:30PM
Wednesday's 5:30PM-6:30PM

High School Group
Wednesday's 6:45PM-7:30PM
Thursday's 6:30PM-7:30PM

Parent Group
Wednesday's 1:00PM-2:30PM

Know that a relationship exists between a child's self confidence and their skill development. As a child's self confidence increases so will their abilities in many areas, including academics and social skills. As the academic competence and social skill competence increase, so does their self confidence. They are related.

  • During the earliest years of your child’s life, be generous with affection.  Take many photos of your child.  Make a good fuss over them.  Surround your children with family and friends.  Enjoy life together.  Take them on outings, to the library, the museum, the zoo, to see the beautiful botanicals, to the beach....  When you enjoy your children and life with them, naturally this builds their self confidence.  They will feel worthwhile.
  • Tell your children what you see “right” in their behavior.  “I notice that you cleaned up the toys.”  Do not tell your children what you see is wrong.  You can point it out to them, but focus more on what is “right” with their behavior.
  • As the children continue to grow, have birthday parties for them.  Let them invite a few friends.  (Eight years old, eight friends.) Encourage your child to play with other children and even invite other children over to play at your home with your supervision.  Help to cultivate their friendships.  We should show them the way....
  • Always and at any age, help your child identify how they feel.  Be a compassionate listener.  Encourage conversations with your children about how they feel and even point out how you feel about things.  Children often “behave” their feelings and we need to help them to narrate the feelings with words.  Our children are trying to grow up and be the best they can be.  They will make poor choices and they will make mistakes.  But do not allow those mistakes to define your child.  Help them to learn from the mistakes.
  • Use honest and open communication at all times.  Life is reciprocal, and we are their teachers.
  • Tell your children at every age that you love them.  Tell them every day if you can.  Tell them to have a nice day in the morning when they leave for school.
  • Do not compare your children with other children or with their siblings.  Try to avoid giving your children negative comments.  They internalize our words, and these words will linger in their thoughts and minds for years to come.  This hurts their developing self confidence.
  • Focus on your child’s strengths and build on strengths.
  • Encourage collections.  This helps a person to become an expert at something.  They will want to learn about the topic and they may become passionate about the topic and later transfer this to something else they do in their life.
  • Growing up takes years.  Continue to help your children to channel their energies wisely.  Hang in there until they go to college, at least.
  • Communicate your confidence in your children’s futures.
  • If you are having a difficult time with something or a relationship, get yourself support and do not take your “angries” out on your children.
  • Love your children unconditionally always.

Helping to build self confidence in your children is easier than your thought.

Begin today.

Wishing you a HEALTHY and HAPPY NEW YEAR from

Susan Stern, LCSW is the founder of the Social Skills Place, Inc.

The Social Skills Place, Inc. :: 310 S. Happ Rd, Suite 201 :: Northfield, Illinois 60093
Office 847 446-7430 :: Cell 847 507-8834 :: www.socialskillsplace.com
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